There’s nothing like a confident woman. A woman who is sure of herself can rule an entire empire.
But what if your confidence isn’t where it needs to be? We all have moments of self-doubt, but if you’re constantly uncomfortable in your own skin, that can signal a problem. Luckily, confidence is something that can be learned.
Before you fill your shelves with self-help books, let’s take a look at the 8 things confident women just don’t do:
1. Hate on Each Other.
One of my favorite quotes is: “A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.” This statement is a beautiful reminder that uplifting others never puts you at a disadvantage. This quote can be applied to many things – even the way women interact with one another.
Acknowledging another woman’s beauty (inside or out) takes nothing away from you and your own qualities. A confident woman finds it easy to celebrate the accomplishments of her sisters. When you feel good about yourself, you want others to feel good as well.
2. Trade Self-respect for Likes.
In this age of feminism and social media, it is often debated whether revealing photos are a sign of empowerment or an indication of a woman with dwindling self-respect. Because respect is such a personal issue, one can’t definitively determine what lies in another’s psyche.
However, if you find yourself regretting your decisions in the quiet moments of life, chances are you are showing yourself less respect than you believe you deserve. Confident women are secure in their decisions and carry themselves with the utmost respect – on and offline.
3. Stay in Hurtful Situations.
Whether personal or professional, confident women won’t stay in situations that compromise their mental wellbeing. Confident women know what they deserve and are assured enough to leave anything that doesn’t measure up to that standard.
4. Obsess Over Other People Opinions.
You know the old saying about opinions…everybody’s got one. So, why stress over it? Confident women don’t put too much weight on what others think of them, especially when the opinions derive from a place of negativity. Confident women know who they are, and that’s enough.
Rarely do confident women compare? There will always be someone more attractive, accomplished, or fill-in-the-blank. Confident women measure themselves by themselves and focus on their own unique attributes and goals.
6. Give Chase.
Confident women know their value. Therefore, when it comes to relationships, there will be no chasing involved. Confident women will not blow up your phone or check your online accounts. She will put absolutely no measures in place to ensure that you don’t lose her. She realizes that if you don’t do right by her, it will be your loss and she will leave. Please refer to #3.
7. People Please.
Confident women don’t brown nose and they certainly won’t compromise their values. Confident women are well aware of what they bring to the table and will allow you to either take it or leave it.
8. Avoid the Possibility of Failure.
I struggled with this for a long time, and sometimes I still do. I would rather not do something than to fail, but this also wipes out any possibility of succeeding. Confident women realize that failure is simply another step toward success, and they don’t allow their failures to define them. Confident women learn from their mistakes and move forward accordingly.
Sometimes, confidence can seem a little tricky, but it’s really simple.
Confident women have simply learned to accept themselves – flaws and all. What other behaviors do confident women avoid?